February 3rd, 2012
Voting Question: What can i do about my dad marrying the wrong woman? please help.?
My Dad met this woman (jane*) round about a year ago and everything seemed fine and everybody was happy.
But soon after (too soon in most peoples opinions) her and her daughter moved into our house.
Me and my sister only stay with my dad friday-sunday and try to spend the most of our time with him, however Jane’s daughter has now taken my room as her room as i am pushed into the box room. Jane has spent £2000 on her daughters new room where as i have a metal rail in my room and her dead mothers old bed. She has also spent over £10,000 making the house feel like it is ‘hers’, however me and my sister have both said buying furniture doesn’t make a home, its the people that do.
It seems that over 1 night our house is completely different, different rules, different rooms have been moved around etc.
Anyway they are getting married in May which means they have only been together a year and a half!! Since jane moving in we have noticed a different side to her and her daughter…her daughter now doesnt stay at dads at the weekend because of a fall out between me her and my sister.
Jane is rude, ignores us, has her priorities wrong and is separating me and my sister from our dad who is by best friend.
ANYWAY, TO THE POINT OF THE QUESTION (lol) i told my dad i didn’t want to be bridesmaid at the wedding. I told him he can make his own mistakes as me and my sister have told him what we think, and i said i cant stand at the wedding pretending to be happy and celebrating their marriage when i would be a hypocrite since i think he is making the wrong decision.
Is this the right this to do? Dad is obviously upset and said how would you like it if i didn’t approve of your husband and didn’t want you down the isle? I would still do it regardless.
But this isn’t me walking him down the isle, this is me and my sister not wanting to feel like fakes and frauds pretending to be happy when he is making the worst decision!
What should i do? This really is tearing our family apart!
