January 15th, 2011
Resolved Question: I need advice on tell my parents i’m moving away with my “husband”.?
i am 20 and i am only child. my parents are older ppl.(father is 58 mother is 56) they can be very over protective of me(and i can understand, i am the only child) my “boyfriend” who is really my husband(i will explain that) is joining the Army and when they station him some place i am moving with him. i do not know how im going to tell my family!
i really dont want my husband to come home from AIT and i tell them “hey mom dad, im moving away today. see ya” but i dont want to tell them right now b4 he even knows the date of when he is leaving, this is bc of my mother. she is very good at making a heart felt,long thought-out decision seem like a horrible and life ending decision.
i would like some advice on how i should kinda break the news slowly. over the period of a month or two. i just wanna know how i can tell them with out just saying “hey! he wants me to come with him!” i want to be adult about this.
**the boyfriend husband thing is we got married at the court house so he could get our paper work ready b4 he goes to the Army. when he comes home and we have the money, we will have a wedding and thats when the family will find out we have been married already.**
and b4 you say it, i do NOT want to tell them i am married. i want our marriage to them to be me walking down that isle and my father giving me away. they do not need to know of our quick court house wedding. so please dont tell me to tell them that i am married.
Thanks
@Babehart is the only part u read was me wanting to be an adult and not wanting to tell them? not taken responsibility would be me writing a note when the went to the store saying i left and moved away. i do think i said i wanted advice on how to tell them im moving. but maybe you didnt read that part? and did u really say lie?!wow u should re read my question. how is me TRYING TO GET ADVICE ON TELLING THEM IM LEAVING lying? i really dont understand that. but thank you for ur “helpful”advice.
@poopypuss oh yes i am very horrible person for not telling my parents that i got married to someone they dont want to take time to get to know. that they dont want to be with. I guess i should not have gotten married to someone i love and care deeply about. i love how ppl like to judge when the dont even know even know a tiny bit of the story! LOVE IT!! how is it ppl read one or two words of the problem and want to judge you and not try to…as i asked, give advice. BUT anywho. cant expect to find open minded ppl on Y!A. that was my fault.
